Wife Abuse The Impact on Children
The scope and seriousness of wife abuse is increasingly
becoming known in our society. Thirty percent (3 in 10) of Canadian
women reported at least one incident of physical or sexual violence
at the hands of a marital partner in a large-scale 1993 national
survey on violence against women conducted by Statistics Canada.
Of the women who had been abused, one-third had feared for their
lives during the abusive relationship.1 Forty-eight percent
of women with a previous marriage reported having experienced abuse.
The profound negative effect on children who witness their mother
being assaulted is now being recognized. Children are affected in
their emotional development and behaviour, as well as in their educational
adjustment. Children, especially boys, who witness violence are
more likely to be violent when they grow up. Witnessing violence
in childhood increases the likelihood of a man becoming an abusive
husband and causing severe injuries.2
How many children are affected?
Estimates of the proportion of children of abused women who witness
the violence range from 40 to 80 percent.1-3 The consensus
of opinion is that children see, overhear or are aware of the majority
of violent incidents. Best estimates indicate that three to five
children in every Canadian school classroom have witnessed their
mother being assaulted.3 In many cases children witness
severe violence. For example, in the 1993 Statistics Canada study,1
children were reported to have witnessed violence in more than half
of the cases in which women feared for their lives. Children who
witness physical violence toward their mother almost invariably
witness a great deal of psychological abuse, including verbal abuse,
belittling and threats toward her.
What are the links between wife assault and child abuse?
Children who witness the violent behaviour of their father
or their mother's partner toward their mother are being emotionally
abused.
There is 30 to 40 percent overlap between children who witness
wife assault and children who experience direct physical abuse themselves.2
Women are often abused during pregnancy and miscarriage
sometimes results.1, 2
Abuse and the resultant trauma and stress on the mother
lessen the coping resources that mothers have available for parenting.
This can result in less effective parenting by the mother and neglect
or child abuse in some cases.2, 4
A pattern of physical and emotional abuse of mother by father
or other male partner is common in families in which children are
sexually abused by fathers or male partners of mothers.5, 6
What are the emotional and behavioural effects on children?
Children who witness their mother being abused by their
father or mother's partner frequently experience Posttraumatic Stress
Disorder (PTSD).7 The symptoms of PTSD include re-experiencing
the trauma (nightmares, intrusive thoughts or images, flashbacks);
fear, anxiety, tension and hyper-vigilance; irritability and outbursts
of anger and aggression; and efforts to avoid being reminded of
the abuse.
If the mother takes her children and leaves, the children
suffer disruption of their home, routine, relationships with their
friends, and often their school. These children may be pre-occupied
with fear that violence will re-occur and are often aware of threats
and attempts at renewed contact, or stalking, by their fathers.
At the same time the children may be relieved to be in a safer place.
Children who have witnessed their mothers being assaulted
display greatly elevated rates of depression, withdrawal, low self-esteem
and other emotional problems.2, 8-12
These children who witness wife assault have a much greater
risk of behaviour problems, such as aggression with peers,
non-compliance with adults, destructive behaviour, and conflict
with the law.8-12
These children who witness wife assault and whose parents
separate may have ambivalent feelings toward their father. They
may miss him, and worry about his well-being, but also be afraid
of him at the same time.
Children, as they enter adolescence, may also have mixed
feelings about their mothers. They may feel sympathy and support,
but also be resentful and disrespectful, because of their opinions
about their mother's choices.
Their level of emotional and behavioural problems is of
a magnitude similar to that of children who are themselves physically
abused.12
What is the impact on education and social skills?
Children who witness their mother being abused by their
father or other male partner tend to have lowered school achievement.
They may have increased school absences because they are needed
at home to look after siblings when the mother is incapacitated,
or they may refuse to go to school because they do not want to be
separated from their mother. At all ages, they may not pay attention
at times because they are preoccupied and anxious. They are
more often truant. When at school they may be withdrawn and/or aggressive.
Children from violent homes tend to have lowered social
skills.11
Abusive homes are often socially isolated and children may
be taught to be secretive about the abuse.2
What are specific effects at different ages, and for girls and
boys?
Very young children, even infants, are seriously affected,
and may suffer problems with sleeping, weight gain and excessive
crying.
Pre-schoolers display effects such as anxiety, clingingness
and aggressive behaviour.
Children beyond the infant or pre-school age often feel
responsible to try to intervene in the abusive situation.
Children aged 6 to 10 tend to have school and peer relationship
problems.
Teenage children tend to be truant, run away or drop out
of school, and they tend to become involved in violent dating relationships.
Teens may, in some cases, use denial as a coping method.
Some, but not all, studies find that girls who witness violence
have a greater tendency to become withdrawn and depressed, while
boys have a greater tendency to act aggressively. However, these
problems are present in both boys and girls.13
Boys, especially at age 11 or older, who identify strongly
with their fathers may imitate his actions by being aggressive towards
their mother and other women.
Are all children affected to the same degree?
Children whose mothers cope especially well and have strong
social support will fare better.4 Children who have areas
of strength in school, social relationships and sports activities
are also better off.
Children who witness abuse and are also themselves abused
tend to fear the worst.9
Links between witnessing violence and learning to be violent
Children from violent homes are being taught that violence
is an effective way to gain power and control over others.2
Children from violent homes are more prone to accept excuses
for violent behaviour, and have increased risk of acting aggressively
toward peers and adults.2
Witnessing violence greatly increases the chances that a
boy will grow up to act violently with dating and/or marital partners.
For girls, it increases the chances that she will accept violence
which occurs in her dating and/or marital relationships.13
What can be done to help children who witness wife assault?
A coordinated community response, with all professionals and service
agency personnel trained to understand issues of woman abuse and
its effects on children, is needed if battered women and their children
are to be adequately protected. Public awareness of the issues involved
is also important.
Early identification and appropriate referral of battered women
can assist in preventing future harm to these women and their children.
Legal/policing issues
When the legal system and police effectively protect women and
their children, the trauma for children is lessened. Current issues
include effective and easily accessed protection orders; quick access
to the matrimonial home with the batterer removed; and the enforcement
of probation conditions and anti-stalking laws. Appropriate penalties
for wife assault all directly affect children's safety, sense of
security and adjustment after abuse.
Child protection
Recognizing that witnessing wife assault constitutes emotional
and psychological abuse is an important first step in protecting
children. At the same time, support to the mother, without victim
blaming, is essential. Six of ten provinces in Canada stipulate
in legislation that children who witness woman abuse can be found
in need of protection.14 (However, child protection agencies
are overwhelmed with existing caseloads and may not have adequate
resources for these cases.)
Child custody/access
After separation, many batterers use the issue of legal child custody
as a means to threaten and control their former spouses.15
The period immediately after separation is a very high-risk period
for abuse and killing of mothers. In a recent study, it was found
that of 1,157 wife assault cases tracked through the Nova Scotia
justice system, 24 percent of victims suffered abuse while their
male partners were exercising court-ordered child visitation.16
Wife assault should be considered a major factor in child custody
cases, as the effects on mothers and children are so serious.17
Children's mental health/Children's groups
The high incidence and serious effects of witnessing wife assault
make it a prime issue in children's mental health. Groups for children
who have witnessed violence are an important service. In group situations,
children can learn safety skills for themselves in abusive
situations. They can learn that no one has the right to abuse
another and that they are not responsible for the abuse. They can
also learn alternative ways to handle conflict without violence.18-19
Individual treatment, and treatment for depression, fear, post-traumatic
stress disorder and aggressive behaviour may also be needed, depending
on the child's adjustment.
Shelters and advocacy for battered women
Support services for battered women, through shelters, legal, housing
and financial supports, all have a major positive impact on the
accompanying children. Without such services, many more children
will continue to witness abuse.
Schools
Schools are in contact with hundreds of thousands of child witnesses
of woman abuse in Canada each year. Professional development for
teachers, as well as the development of school protocols to deal
with and assist such children are very important.
Prevention
Schools and community resources cooperating in awareness programs
constitute the best hope to educate all community members about
the effect of witnessing abuse on families and children. Effective
programs are available and can be implemented at low cost.
Resources for prevention For educators:
A.S.A.P.: A School-based Anti-Violence Program. M. Sudermann,
P. Jaffe, E. Schieck. 1993, London Family Court Clinic, London.
A.S.A.P. provides a comprehensive and evaluated plan to implement
violence prevention programs in schools with a special emphasis
on violence in relationships. It is designed for teachers, students
and parents. Community involvement is an important component. Wife
assault, dating violence, bullying, racism and sexism, and other
forms of violence are addressed. The manual includes information
about handling disclosures from children. Many reproducible materials
are also included. A curricular resource document, 65 friendly
lessons on violence prevention, accompanies the manual. Available
from: The London Family Court Clinic, 254 Pall Mall St., London,
ON N6A 5P6. Tel: (519) 679-7250.
Thumbs Down A Classroom Response to Violence Towards
Women. Canadian Teacher's Federation, Ottawa, 1990.
Thumbs Down is a violence prevention program for Kindergarten
to Grade 12 which encourages classroom discussion and age-appropriate
activities. This is a valuable resource with suitable in-class exercises,
individual exercises, handouts and read-aloud books and videos.
The manual is available in English and French.
Suggested readings
Ending the Cycle of Violence: Community Responses to Children
of Battered Women. E. Peled, P. Jaffe, J. Edleson, Eds. Sage
Publications, Thousand Oaks, CA, 1995.
This is an excellent resource book for community workers and professionals
working in the social service, legal, policing and advocacy fields.
Issues addressed range from assessment, child custody and advocacy
to prevention.
A Handbook for the Prevention of Family Violence: Child Abuse,
Wife Assault and Elder Abuse. S. Mulligan, S. Barrs, D. Mitchell,
R. Pickering, J. Pritchard, J. Quinn, Eds. Family Violence
Prevention Project, The Community Child Abuse Council of Hamilton-Wentworth,
1991.
This handbook has good information about both wife assault
and its effects on children, among other topics. It also deals with
child physical and sexual abuse and elder abuse.
Children of Battered Women. P. Jaffe, D. Wolfe, S.
Wilson. Sage Publications, Newbury, Park, 1990.
This is a good source book on the effects of wife assault on the
children who witness it. It also contains a description of a group
treatment program for children.
Video resources
Preventing Family Violence: A Catalogue of Canadian Videos
on Family Violence lists videos which can be borrowed
for a small administration fee through the offices of the National
Film Board of Canada. The Catalogue is available through the National
Clearinghouse on Family Violence. Tel: 1-800-267-1291.
Make a Difference: How to Respond to Child Witnesses of
Woman Abuse (1995). The London Coordinating Committee to End
Woman Abuse, c/o C.A.S. of London & Middlesex. Tel: (519)
455-9000.
A 20-minute video produced for educators and children's service
providers. Topics include the effects on children of witnessing
wife assault, identifying child witnesses, and how to respond
to disclosures.
The Crown Prince (1989). National Film Board of Canada
(also available in French).
A 37-minute video that depicts the feelings and problems of two
children (Billy, 15, and his younger brother) who live in a home
where their mother is a victim of wife assault.
Break the Cycle (1991). Esprit Films Ltd., Tel: (905) 685-8336.
This 25-minute video addresses issues related to wife battering.
The film includes interviews with a battered woman, a violent husband
and several teenagers who witnessed violence against their mother.
Tulip Doesn't Feel Safe (1993). Kinetic, Inc. Tel: (416)
963-5979.
An animated 15-minute video which teaches children aged 6 to 8
how to deal with various unsafe situations, most specifically wife
abuse.
Kid Stuff (1990). National Film Board of Canada (also available
in French).
A non-verbal 6-minute video which combines drawings and puppet
animation to convey the impact on a young boy of his parents' quarrel.
Seen but Not Heard? (1993). Friday Street Productions and
the BC Interval and Transitions Houses. Available through the National
Film Board of Canada.
A 29-minute video on the effects on children of witnessing woman
abuse at home.
Books for children
Hear My Roar: A Story of Family Violence, by Ty Hochban
& Vladyana Krykorka, Annick Press Ltd., Toronto, 1994.
Hear My Roar is to be read to children aged 5 and up who
live in a family where there is wife abuse. It provides a framework
for discussion with a child who witnesses woman abuse at home.
Mommy and Daddy are Fighting, S. Paris, Seal Press, Seattle,
1986.
Never, No Matter What, by M. Oho & C. Clarke, Women's
Press, Toronto, 1988.
Something is Wrong at My House: A Book about Parents' Fighting,
by Diane Davis, Parenting Press, Inc., Seattle, 1984.
A good book about feelings and ways to cope when living in a violent
household.
French-Language resources (Suggested readings and videos)
Au Grand Jour par Madeleine Lacombe, Regroupement provincial
des maisons d'hébergement et de transition pour femmes victimes
de violence conjugale, Montréal, 1990.
Derri re les chiffres, Regroupement provincial des maisons
d'hébergement et de transition pour femmes victimes de violence
conjugale, Montréal, 1990.
Enfantillage (1990). Office National du Film du Canada
(aussi offert en anglais).
Interventions aupr s des enfants exposés la violence conjugale,
par Yvette Garceau Durant, Centre local de services communautaires
de Sept-Îles, 1990.
Portrait de santé des femmes violentées et de leurs enfants,
par Suzanne Kérouac, Elizabeth Taggart, and Joëlle Lescop, Faculté
d'Infirmi re, Université de Montréal, 1986.
Le Prince Héritier (1989). Office National du Film du Canada
(aussi offert en anglais).
Un film de fiction qui cerne la souffrance des adolescents aux
prises avec les situations d'un quotidien devant lequel ils se sentent
impuissants. Mais le sont-ils vraiment?
Relations parents-enfants: Fiche de renseignements (1993).
Centre national d'information sur la violence dans la famille.
Violence conjugale: Les enfants témoins (1995). CECOM de
l'hôpital de Rivi re-des-Prairies, Montréal, Québec. Tel: (514)
328-3503.
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& Watson, L. (1995). An evaluation of groups for children
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This fact sheet was revised under contract by the London Family
Court Clinic (Marlies Sudermann, Peter Jaffe & Lynn Watson).
We gratefully acknowledge the assistance of consultants from the
Family Violence Prevention Unit of Health Canada who provided
helpful comments and suggestions. For further information on wife
abuse the impact on children or other family violence issues,
contact:
National Clearinghouse on Family Violence
Address Locator: 1909D1
Family Violence Prevention Unit
Public Health Agency of Canada
Health Canada
Ottawa, Ontario K1A 1B4
Telephone: (613) 957-2938 or call this toll-free number: 1-800-267-1291
Fax: (613) 941-8930
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April 1996 (revised)
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