Chapter 3: The Home Experience
A mounting body of evidence indicates a strong relationship between the
way parents interact with their children and their children's social and
physical health (Morrison et al., 1994). Adolescence is often a period
of uncertainty when youth are expected to become more responsible and
more autonomous in their lifestyle as they prepare for adulthood, but
this does not necessarily lead to estrangement from parents. The vast
majority of adolescents still tend to respect their parents, feel part
of the family and share many of the same values as their parents. However,
in some families parent-child conflict does increase during adolescence,
and is exacerbated by marriage strains and parent substance abuse (deGoede
and Spruijt, 1996).
Parenting style appears to be related to adolescent risk behaviour. When
parents take a more democratic approach to expectations and relationships
and provide emotional support, healthy adolescent development is encouraged
(Congress of the U.S., 1991). Clearly stated expectations and reasonable
rules regarding behaviour are considered to be the fundamental components
of effective parenting. When parents are indifferent, exhibit inappropriate
role modelling, or are inconsistent in setting standards of behaviour
for their children, there is a much greater likelihood of problem behaviour
and psychological problems (Dougherty, 1993). Adolescents who do not feel
close to their parents or who are living in single-parent families are
more likely to suffer from problems with self-esteem, depression and engage
in risk behaviours such as smoking and drug use (Resnick et al., 1998).
It is difficult to provide youth with models of satisfying adult relationships,
meaningful work experiences and good marriages when tensions at home make
parent-child relationships stressful.
Figure 3.1 Family structure,
all grades and male/female combined (%) |
|
1994 |
1998 |
Both Parents |
76 |
74 |
Mothers Only |
12 |
12 |
Fathers Only |
2 |
2 |
Mother and Stepfather |
6 |
8 |
Father and Stepmother |
2 |
2 |
Other |
1 |
2 |
Figure 3.2 Responses of Grade
8 students to selected items by whether they believe their family
is or not well off, 1998 (%) |
|
Male |
Female |
|
Well Off |
Not well off |
Well Off |
Not well off |
Happiness (Very Happy) |
52 |
28 |
40 |
25 |
My parents understand me |
74 |
44 |
57 |
40 |
I feel I belong at this school |
59 |
38 |
65 |
46 |
Have used marijuana |
13 |
38 |
14 |
26 |
The findings presented in this chapter are designed to examine trends
in family structure and parent relationships with their children, and
to illustrate the importance of positive family relationships to the health
of youth.
Family Structure and Socioeconomic Status
Over the past thirty years, significant social changes have dramatically
affected family life in Canada. Greater reproductive freedom and changes
in the workplace have increased women's opportunities and, simultaneously,
the complexity of family life.
Figure 3.1 illustrates that family structure has changed very little
over the past four years. A small reduction in the number of young people
living with both natural parents between the 1994 and 1998 surveys is
associated with slight increases in all the other categories except "living
with father and stepmother". Nevertheless, it must be noted that
nearly three-quarters of our sample of students did live with both natural
parents. In the following discussion of students' relationship with parents,
it must be remembered that the respondents are not all talking about the
same family structure.
The study was not designed to determine directly the impact of poverty
on the health of youth; however, it was possible to consider the relationships
between the respondents' answers to the question "How well off do
you think your family is?" and the measures of health and social
adjustment. Some low to moderate correlations were found. Figure 3.2 illustrates
some of these relationships by comparing the responses of those who said
they were "well off" or "very well" off with those
who said they were "not well off" on four factors. Those who
indicated that their families were not well off were less likely to feel
"very happy", agree that their parents understood them and feel
they belonged at school and they were more likely to have used marijuana.
Parent Relationships and Health
A scale designed to incorporate the key elements in parents' relationships
with their children was developed. The scale scores are used to examine
the association between parent-child relationships and other variables:
each of the items that makes up the scale is discussed in the next few
pages. Figure 3.3 illustrates the strong relationship between the nature
of the relationship between parents and their children and the majority
of other health-related variables. Those who have good relationships with
their parents are also more likely to be well-adjusted at school, to feel
healthy, to have high self-esteem, and to avoid health-risk behaviours.
Communication with Parents
Parents are the most significant source of social support through the
early years of adolescence. There are important regulatory effects on
biological and psychological health related to the quality of communication
and degree of understanding of adolescent issues maintained by parents.
Figure 3.4 deals with the students' ease with talking to their father
about things that really bother them, and clearly illustrates the steady
decline on this measure from Grade 6 to 10. Of particular concern is the
relatively low proportion of girls who find it easy to talk to their father.
This is particularly important because girls tend to value their father's
views highly and need their support through the stressful adolescent period
(Shulman and Seiffige-Krenke, 1997). Furthermore, serious psychosocial
problems appear to be associated with poor communication with the father
for both boys and girls. There was little change over the three surveys
on this measure for the Grades 8 and 10 respondents, but on the positive
side there were increases for both boys and girls at the Grade 6 level.
Figure 3.3 Factors associated
with students' relationships with their parents |
Students who have good relationships with their parents are more
likely to |
Grade 6 |
Grade 8 |
Grade 10 |
|
M |
F |
M |
F |
M |
F |
Fell happy |
2 |
4 |
4 |
4 |
3 |
4 |
Have high self-esteem |
4 |
4 |
3 |
4 |
2 |
3 |
Not feel that their parents expect too much |
2 |
3 |
3 |
4 |
4 |
4 |
Be well adjusted at school |
2 |
3 |
3 |
3 |
2 |
3 |
Not feel depressed |
2 |
3 |
3 |
3 |
2 |
3 |
Not have bad moods |
2 |
3 |
2 |
3 |
2 |
2 |
Not feel lonely |
2 |
3 |
2 |
3 |
1 |
2 |
Not feel pressured by school work |
2 |
3 |
2 |
2 |
1 |
1 |
Not feel helpless |
2 |
2 |
2 |
2 |
1 |
2 |
Not feel tired when they go to school |
1 |
1 |
2 |
2 |
1 |
1 |
Not want to change their body |
2 |
2 |
2 |
2 |
1 |
1 |
Achieve higher marks at school |
1 |
1 |
2 |
2 |
2 |
2 |
Not bully others |
1 |
1 |
2 |
2 |
1 |
2 |
Not feel left out |
2 |
2 |
1 |
1 |
1 |
1 |
Think their family is well off |
1 |
2 |
2 |
1 |
1 |
1 |
Feel healthy |
1 |
1 |
1 |
2 |
1 |
1 |
Not smoke |
— |
1 |
2 |
2 |
1 |
2 |
Not have been drunk |
— |
1 |
2 |
2 |
1 |
1 |
Not have friends who use drugs |
— |
— |
1 |
2 |
2 |
2 |
Not use marijuana |
— |
— |
1 |
2 |
2 |
1 |
Not skip classes |
— |
— |
2 |
2 |
1 |
1 |
Not have friends who smoke |
— |
— |
1 |
2 |
1 |
2 |
Not have friends who drink |
— |
— |
2 |
1 |
1 |
1 |
Correlation coefficient: 1= .15
to .24 | 2= .25 to .34 | 3=
.35 to .44 | 4= .45 + |
Figure 3.4 Students who found
it "easy" or "very easy" to talk to their father about things that
really bother them (%) |
|
1990 |
1994 |
1998 |
|
Male |
Female |
Male |
Female |
Male |
Female |
Grade 6 |
63 |
49 |
69 |
54 |
71 |
58 |
Grade 8 |
56 |
41 |
56 |
39 |
59 |
39 |
Grade 10 |
48 |
36 |
47 |
32 |
51 |
33 |
Figure 3.5 Students who found
it "easy" or "very easy" to talk to their mother about things that
really bother them (%) |
|
1990 |
1994 |
1998 |
|
Male |
Female |
Male |
Female |
Male |
Female |
Grade 6 |
74 |
78 |
82 |
79 |
83 |
83 |
Grade 8 |
67 |
70 |
73 |
71 |
72 |
71 |
Grade 10 |
65 |
67 |
66 |
63 |
68 |
65 |
Figure 3.6 Fifteen year olds
who found it "easy" or "very easy" to talk to
their father about things that really bother them by country, 1998
(%) |
|
Male |
Female |
SWE |
62 |
45 |
POL |
57 |
38 |
ENG |
55 |
41 |
NOR |
55 |
35 |
GRE |
55 |
33 |
FRA* |
54 |
32 |
USA |
53 |
41 |
DEN |
53 |
38 |
SWI |
52 |
37 |
CAN |
51 |
35 |
GER* |
49 |
29 |
*France and Germany are represented by regions:
see Chapter 1 for details |
The father is an important role model for young people and there is a
strong relationship between the extent that fathers interact with their
children and their children's social adjustment. Swedish youth had more
success engaging their fathers regarding problem issues and German youth
less success. Canada was no exception to the general pattern of poor communication
between father and their daughters.
Figure 3.5 presents the students' responses to the question "Do
you find it 'easy' or 'very easy' to talk to your mother about things
that really bother you". In general, the respondents found it easier
to talk to their mother than to their father. There was a drop between
Grade 6 and Grade 10 in the proportion who found it easy to talk to their
mother about things that really bother them, from over four-fifths to
about two-thirds of the respondents. Unlike the question related to the
father, there were very small gender differences. It is clear that in
Canada mothers are seen by their children as more approachable than fathers
and very likely play a more substantial role in helping them with their
problems.
Parent-Child Relationships
Although a general view of parents' relationships with their children
has been presented, it is useful to examine student responses to specific
aspects of the parent-student relationship scale such as trust, understanding
and expectations.
Figure 3.7 indicates the proportion of students who agreed with the statement
"My parents understand me". By the time they are in Grade 10
almost half the respondents thought that their parents did not understand
them. Perhaps surprisingly, more boys than girls in all three surveys
and all three grade groups indicated that their parents understood them.
The decline with age is perhaps consistent with youth seeking more autonomy
and their feeling that their parents do not fully understand this transition.
There was little change over the three surveys except for slightly more
positive responses from Grade 6 respondents during focus-group interview
sessions, in the later surveys.
During design of the questionnaire, survey items are tested with students
in focus groups to determine how they understand the questions. In responding
to the question on parents trusting them, students in the focus group
interpreted trust to mean responsibility in completing tasks, handling
money, and parental acceptance of their general behaviour. Figure 3.8
suggests that the vast majority of Canadian youth view their parents as
trusting them. Gender differences tend to favour boys except for 11 year
olds in the first survey, and there was little change over the three surveys.
The general level of respondents' views of their parents' trust in them
dropped 10 percent for boys and 12 percent for girls between Grades 6
and 10, although for both genders the main decrease occurred at Grade
8.
Figure 3.7 Students who felt
their parents understand them (%) |
|
1990 |
1994 |
1998 |
|
Male |
Female |
Male |
Female |
Male |
Female |
Grade 6 |
66 |
63 |
78 |
70 |
76 |
70 |
Grade 8 |
56 |
46 |
62 |
51 |
64 |
50 |
Grade 10 |
51 |
45 |
50 |
43 |
53 |
46 |
Figure 3.8 Students who felt
their parents trust them (%) |
|
1990 |
1994 |
1998 |
|
Male |
Female |
Male |
Female |
Male |
Female |
Grade 6 |
74 |
79 |
82 |
81 |
83 |
81 |
Grade 8 |
74 |
66 |
74 |
70 |
76 |
71 |
Grade 10 |
68 |
62 |
68 |
65 |
74 |
71 |
Figure 3.9 Students who felt
they had a lot of arguments with their parents (%) |
|
1990 |
1994 |
1998 |
|
Male |
Female |
Male |
Female |
Male |
Female |
Grade 6 |
26 |
22 |
20 |
21 |
19 |
18 |
Grade 8 |
27 |
33 |
24 |
33 |
26 |
34 |
Grade 10 |
30 |
35 |
31 |
34 |
29 |
36 |
Figure 3.10 Students who indicated
there were times they would like to leave home (%) |
|
1990 |
1994 |
1998 |
|
Male |
Female |
Male |
Female |
Male |
Female |
Grade 6 |
43 |
42 |
34 |
35 |
33 |
31 |
Grade 8 |
41 |
51 |
33 |
42 |
33 |
43 |
Grade 10 |
44 |
55 |
40 |
51 |
33 |
46 |
Conflict with parents tends to result in a disengagement from the home
and a greater likelihood for young people to become involved in health-risk
behaviour. One aspect of parent-child conflict concerns the extent to
which there are arguments between them. Figure 3.9 presents the proportion
of students who agreed with the statement "I have a lot of arguments
with my parents". Nearly one-third of the Grade 8 and 10 students
indicated that they had a lot of arguments with their parents with significantly
more girls than boys agreeing with the statement. Gender differences were
small for the Grade 6 students as were differences between Grade 8 and
10 students. Over the three surveys there was very little evidence of
significant changes except for a slight decrease for the Grade 6 groups.
The respondents were asked if there were times when they would like to
leave home and their answers are summarized in Figure 3.10. This question
lacks precision because it is difficult to know how seriously or how many
times they had this feeling. Nevertheless, surprisingly large numbers
of girls agreed with the statement, approaching one-half in the case of
the Grade 10 girls. There were pronounced gender differences for the Grade
8 and Grade 10 respondents with significantly more girls agreeing with
the statement. The steady increase in the proportion of girls who indicated
that there were times when they would like to leave home was notable from
Grade 6 to Grade 10 suggesting a difficult transition through puberty
for some. There was no evidence of a similar pattern for boys. Over the
three surveys, there was a slight decline in the proportion of respondents
who agreed with this statement except for the Grade 8 respondents in the
second and third surveys.
One of the great challenges for parents is to establish realistic expectations
for their children particularly with regard to school achievement and
effort. It is not surprising that most parents want their children to
be successful as measured by marks and, ultimately, attendance at university.
Of course, this level of attainment is not realistic for all children,
and yet, many parents, through either word or deed, establish an atmosphere
of unrealistically high expectations that can lead to stress and even
conflict. There was a steady increase in the proportion of respondents
who felt their parents expected too much of them as they progressed through
the grades. Approximately one-third of the respondents from Grades 8 and
10 felt their parents expected too much of them (Figure 3.11). Numbers
were lower for the Grade 6 respondents and declined slightly over the
three surveys. Gender differences were small, which suggests that parents
hold equally high expectations for their male and female children.
Figure 3.11 Students who
felt their parents expect too much of them (%) |
|
1990 |
1994 |
1998 |
|
Male |
Female |
Male |
Female |
Male |
Female |
Grade 6 |
28 |
24 |
21 |
19 |
19 |
18 |
Grade 8 |
32 |
34 |
31 |
31 |
30 |
30 |
Grade 10 |
34 |
34 |
36 |
34 |
30 |
33 |
Figure 3.12 Thirteen year
olds who felt their parents expect too much of them at school by country,
1998 (%) |
|
Male |
Female |
GRE |
76 |
71 |
ENG |
41 |
31 |
USA |
40 |
37 |
POL |
37 |
32 |
GER* |
35 |
27 |
DEN |
35 |
22 |
CAN |
34 |
28 |
FRA* |
34 |
28 |
SWE |
34 |
28 |
NOR |
33 |
22 |
SWI |
26 |
24 |
* France
and Germany are represented
by regions: See Chapter 1 for details |
Parents expectations of student's school performance were particularly
high in Greece. Differences across the other countries were not substantial.
In all the countries, proportionally more boys than girls, felt that if
their parents expected too much of them at school.
Figure 3.13 Students who felt
what their parents think of them is important (%) |
|
1990 |
1994 |
1998 |
|
Male |
Female |
Male |
Female |
Male |
Female |
Grade 6 |
80 |
81 |
84 |
76 |
82 |
77 |
Grade 8 |
75 |
73 |
76 |
69 |
74 |
69 |
Grade 10 |
72 |
74 |
71 |
69 |
67 |
72 |
A review of relevant research revealed that the vast majority of youth
continued to value their parents opinion of them as they proceeded through
adolescence. Findings from this study are consistent with this research.
Even though there was a slight decline across the three age groups, the
vast majority of our respondents indicated they valued their parents'
opinion of them (Figure 3.13). This is true in spite of stress and conflict
evident in their responses to the questions discussed here. Gender differences
were relatively small. In previous analyses of HBSC findings it was noted
that Canadian youth tended to find it more difficult to talk to their
parents than did youth from most European countries. It was also noted
that young people who find it easy to talk to their parents are less likely
to have emotional problems. It is extremely important for their general
health that adolescents have free and easy communication with their parents
about all issues related to their lives.
Summary
There have been major shifts in the structure of the family over the
last few years. Increasing numbers of young people do not live with both
their biological parents. However, three-quarters of our sample did live
with both natural parents.
Parents' relationships with their children appeared to decline as the
respondents grew older, particularly in the areas of trust and expectations.
The number of young people in Grade 10 who indicated there were times
they would like to leave home approached nearly one-half for girls and
one-third for boys. Although the children valued highly what their parents
think of them, in many cases relationships were strained. This was especially
true with regard to parent expectations of school performance where nearly
one-third of the respondents indicated that expectations were too high.
The proportion of children who communicated with their fathers about
their problems decreased sharply from Grade 6 to Grade 10, especially
for girls. Young people found it much easier to talk to their mother.
It would appear that fathers are highly valued by their children and,
by spending more time and communicating more effectively with them, can
play a much more important role in their life than they now do. Canadian
parents appear to be slightly more distanced from their children than
is the case in a number of European countries.
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